Engaging in relationships triggers wounds.  That's right.  You invite people into your life to help you confront aspects of yourself that you have been avoiding, ignoring or disempowering. People we encounter behave in ways we need to experience, tell us what we need to hear, whether or not this enables us to feel good at the beginning.

Relationship choices are conscious or unconscious efforts to awaken our dormant compassion and fearlessness. Every person you meet prompts you to rethink why you have become convinced you feel hurt or defeated.  You can choose to believe the presence of each person confirms your distorted beliefs about yourself or, you can interact to get to the bottom of your guilt, shame, distrust, and inner wounds.

Each of us lives an earthly reality that is partly distorted. This helps explain why it can seem difficult to uncover our true feelings, and get to identify our authentic dreams. It takes courage to be willing to turn inside and grow, to face your fears and make conscious changes.  This is precisely how you break down walls of pride.

1) Recognize new relationships open old wounds. Events in your present stem back to instances when you felt powerless, helpless, undervalued or chose to sense negative reinforcement. As you seek greater self-understanding, you may discover you're in denial, but only until you deduce pain is an illusion and you had forgotten about the healing power of self-love. Push yourself to change your perception.

2) Move to act from greater compassion. Realize your soul can alter the nature and direction of your future relationships. To date, you may have adopted behavior to compensate for anxiety that is groundless and unfounded. Determine what would prompt you to change how you react to what happens.  You create and project it all. 

3) Resolve past relationships. Pain may alienate you from people from your past. You may not yet have let go completely or moved on.Unresolved feelings explain why people avoid risks, intimacy or fear commitment. Why bury issues you exist to resolve? What do you hide from? Choose to get in touch with your inner self. Explore why you struggle to bond with others, why you may repress hostility or disharmony. Learn to heal destructive vulnerability.  This is part of the process of self-growth.