Do you dream od encountering a relationship that throws your life into chaos? Few people do.  The most common practice is for people to make choices that keep that threat under control.  These kinds of people become content and reassured by their predictable lover's routine.  They believe to leave the comfort of what they know would be too scary and would lead to problems.

However, other people think the very opposite.  The thrive on impulsiveness and surrender to the unknown without giving the risk too much thought.  At times, these kinds of people hope to find solutions to their problems in the realm of their most passionate experiences.  The people who follow their passions may experience euphoria when marvellous things occur or deep disappointment if events unfold in undesirable ways.   

In either case, if you make your partner responsible for your happiness and blame this partner for your unhappiness, then you haven't yet realized you make your choices and must be accountable. As you consider denying or giving into the source of your passion, only you can decide whether either perspective is more destructive, or whether you would make a completely different decision.  The prospect of chaos could sound scary of exciting, but each experience teaches you useful things.