Each relationship you choose is a means of revealing details about yourself.  Reflect on your values and principles.  Do you choose to spend time with like-minded individuals?  Are your closest companions reinforcing habits you wish to break? Some people choose relationships as an effort to escape challenges or aspects of themselves they don't wish to face.  If you think spending time with certain people helps you hide or escape from what you fear or have trouble giving up, you're in for a different kind of surprise. Perhaps it will even be a rude awakening?

Consider people who repeatedly choose friends and partners who have a negative influence or who enable abuse, addiction, obsession, denial, self-destruction or repressed emotions.  Why do you think troubled people often find themselves in similar situations with other troubled people over and over again?  They may not feel they have the strength or abilitites to face and work through their challenges alone.  Yet, if this sounds like you, you need not re-create the old you.

In essence, these kinds of people seldom admit they feel lonely. They sense no one could understand their past experiences and that no person in their right mind would wish to take that painful journey.  And yet, you do not have to wait for other people to see you as you really are before you learn to recognize it for yourself and choose to make new kinds of choices.  The idea of re-creating yourself allows you to awaken the true self inside who is talented and ready to go.

Take for example that who you sense you are at this moment is actually a reflection of your past.  What you have done up to this point has affected your relationship choices.  If you gave into your own destructive behaviors and chose friends and companions who rebelled or made dangersous decisions, these choices enabled you to continue.  Stand back and reflect on your options. Open your heart and your mind.  If you feel you're in a mess, realize you got yourself into your own mess.  Don't let healthier choices pass by. You can get yourself out of any situation. 

Nothing you have done is beyond repair. Do not judge your past and invite external judgment.  Instead, choose to change your point of view.  Examine your life in new and uplifting ways. As you alter your perception of yourself, you will naturally make new relationship choices. As you grow to believe strongly in what you wish to see, you will learn to recognize that engaging in relationships isn't something anyone has to do.  Yet, we can choose to experience this and grow.