Notice the conditions and relationships that have staying power or longevity in your life. What keeps them in your scope or focus of attention? What solidifies a bond between friends or partners and convinces them to 'stick it out' even when circumstances are difficult? What keeps certain people connected?
"The prospect of growing old together," admit one middle-aged couple.
"The loneliness I see among mature singles around me," replies one married man.
"We give each other strength," admits a female partner of 10 years.
"The joys of our children and grandchildren," explain grandparents.
"Shared values," notes a married woman.
You hear about financial troubles, serious illness, workaholism and other hurtful habits or activities, and yet, people who choose to stay connected somehow recognize how trivial many of their trials, disagreements or concerns really are. They talk things out and let go. They learn how not to hold grudges. Instead, they focus on what brought them together. They reminisce about how and why they overcame problems in the past.
Couples that stay together through hardship learn it enables them to grow stronger and build trust. They learn the value of apology and forgiveness in and work through destructive, negative thoughts and feelings. Healthier relationships are those where partners find ways to face the truth about themselves and also evolve together. A shared vision, a willingness to listen to each other, can lead to a relationship with staying power. People will often offer you advice about your life. Evaluate it thoroughly from your perspective. You are accountable for your decisions. Depend on yourself. Have faith in yourself. Share your intuitive views and see what feels right.