Seeking approval is a sign. Reaching for approval reveals you doubt yourself. If you decide not to seek approval, you begin to see that what other people think doesn't reallyaffect who you are inside. Why? You don't have to be what people desire or expect. Loving yourself unconditionally means you accept yourself and do not seek to change anything.
As you begin to consider things about yourself you might wish to change, reflect also on people or circumstances that may have prompted you to feel this way. Learn to rise above these influences. Tell yourself honesty triggers a fulfilling life. Denying innate love and acceptance blocks a human being from living physical existence to the fullest.
"How do we love ourselves? One way is by not seeking approval outside ourselves."
-Byron Katie