Many people underestimate the value of having experiences they don't think they want.  Not only do they help you get-to-know yourself better, but they also bring you closer to understanding precisely what you do want.  Consider how success-oriented you are based on these reflections:

1) When you desire something, do you react by assuming it isn't possible? or, do you have the attitude, "where there's a will, a way can be found"?

2) When you discern an experience you want, do you start to feel unhappy that you haven't had it? or, do you begin brainstorming different ways to 'make it happen?'

3) When you admire someone for their career path or charisma, do you instinctively compare what you're not and put yourself down? or, do you choose to detect similar, budding qualities in yourself worthy of attention and mentoring?

The key is to contemplate your choices. Recognize that reflecting on your options results in a natural preference for a certain kind of thinking.  As you choose the more positive directions, they will become positive thoughts.  Creating a trend leads to consistent, self-directed efforts and meaningful results.  Ask and ye shall find.