All relationships aren't experienced in a positive light. You may be grappling with thoughts of anger or revenge you feel tempted to carry out to get even. If you've been hurt in relationships, your reflex may be to take impulsive action. Look out! Jealousy, resentment or thoughts of "not enough" can become the energy that flows in your veins and the dominant frequencies you send out. You invite more of what you think about into your life. Attracting negativity isn't in your best interest.

Allowing discomfort to control you affects your relationships in a domino affect. To help you regain control over your thoughts, feelings and impact relationships in more positive ways, you need to change focus before you take revenge or do things you might regret. As such,it makes sense to remind yourself of four things:

1) People behave based on what they know. Some people have no point of reference for love, compassion and appreciation. They may manipulate, exploit or harm people to project how they have been treated, how lost they feel, and based on examples they have seen. This scenario helps you understand why people will push away precisely what they need most, that is, people who glow with happiness or enthusiasm, who offer of guidance, gestures of compassion or other assistance. People who reject what they need fear what they don't know. Why send them more negativity? That won't help them and it won't help you nurture better relations.

2) People get wrapped up in their ego-mind. Ironically, when times are good and money flows, there can be greater dissatisfaction due to "enough syndrome".  As people envision what things could be like, they may become angry and enraged about how things actually are for them. How many people do you know who openly compare themselves to others? Do members of your family frequently talk about what you don't have that the neighbours do? Are you envious of the affection and loyalty you see in other couples, the success you witness in other businesses and levels of creative energy? Focusing on reasons for emptiness or getting even won't fill your void.  It would dig your hole deeper.  Choose to build on your strengths instead.

3) People who never get angry may be easy targets. Aggressive and angry people can easily take advantage of such people because they may cringe and back away. They don't fight back. If this sounds like you, then you choose to be a victim. You may sense helplessness and get anxious, afraid, and depressed. Lashing out to make up for lost time isn't the answer. Do you treat other people as you desire to be treated? This invites treatment you want. Sending thoughts of love and forgiveness and then, disciplining yourself to shift focus would be more effective. Ensure your actions don't undermine or contradict your intentions for enriching relationships.

4) Most behavior is learned early in life. If a person comes from a chaotic or disrupted home, being angry may have been the example set. Sometimes children learn the only way to get what they want is to start a fight or express angry. Parents may have given in to quiet them. Other adults who are susceptible to anger, keep it inside and take advantage of people. Such angry adults simply act as they always have. Recognizing this kind of personality may give you reason to make choices that put distance between you. You can't change others, but you control your reactions.