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Entries in expectations (18)


3 Ways to see wisdom in urges to escape

Its common to wish to escape from thoughts of discomfort and challenges that feel overwhelming. Life situations can escalate or get-out -of hand. Simple conversations can intensify, and trigger your emotions. Why assume changing scenery makes a difference? What is really going on? Ponder 5 ways to see wisdom in urges to escape: 

1) Look deeper to see what you really wish to escape  

Notice on the surface, you may think you wish to avoid conflict at work, in relationships or other situations, or even temporarily alleviate the stress you link to paying bills, keeping up appearances, multi-tasking or other matters. Turning inward reveals all urges to escape/ travel/ change scenery are forms of resistance to accepting true being (who you really are). Discomfort arising in relation to your external world reflects internal tug-of-war between the limiting Mind and expanding Self. This reveals why people often say they need a vacation to recouperate from the vacation or attend retreat after retreat. Rather than relax and be in the moment, an active mind focuses attention on what is not being done somewhere other than where one is.

2) Society/ culture programs humans to suffer.

Notice the Mind is programmed to oscillate between perceptions of pain and pleasure and focus mainly on misery of who you think you are not, where you are not and what you are not yet doing. This takes shape as focusing on the past or future, on what seems lacking or missing in your life, on what you no longer have or would like to and do not yet see materialize. This even comes across in calendar celebrations that recognize historical events but actually just keep you focused energetically away from now. 

3) Recognize & move beyond 'the what next syndrome.'

Notice the ways the Mind keep you thinking about the future and speaking using the future tense in language. You come to nurture expectations for what is next rather than appreciate where you are. It can take shape in a linear timeline vision for relationships (i.e. dating, commitment, marriage, children, house purchase, children, retirement ect), for moving up a hierarchy in the workplace, for envisioning step-by-step changes to any situation. Watch what happens to the urge to escape when you let go of all expactations.

At some stage, stepping back allows one to see through all the seeking and master the focus of attention. It dawns that physical existence is not full of problems to be solved but rather, full of mysteries to be lived directly. No questions arise in the Silence where nothing is happening and no-body exists to escape from.


See beyond the periphery

Imagine for a moment how the soul is laying out your resume. This may be very different than techniques you are currently using. Everything you read and write has a vibration. Seeing beyond the periphery only scares you if you have expectations. Know where you stand. Know where you wish to go. Then do not focus too much on your points of reference. See and feel a vision with the heart.  Find humour in your changing vision.  Know everything can and does change in an instant.  What does it take for you to be excited about the unknown? Live fully yourself. Accepting you is accepting limitation is illusion.

So what is seeing beyond the periphery? Its seeing through the eyes of a child.  Change how you see. Hold no expectations. Allow yourself to see blessings and lessons everywhere. Approach yourself through innocence. The power of thought can change circumstances you perceive. Operate through child-like understanding. Nobody creates a series of events they cannot master. Own the Path you are on.  You create it for yourself so you recall everything as you operate from awareness. Nothing is happening to you when you recognize and take full responsibility for how you think and feel.


The key to everything

Ever notice that when you hold no expectations, you cannot be disappointed? Real love is experienced when nothing is expected in return for being who you are. Yet, how does this translate into realizing dreams in a 3-D world?

This does not mean desires cease.  It implies inner peace is experienced when you detach from outcomes. Energy flows are driven by forces beyond the scope of ego, beyond what is detected by physical senses. Everything in physical worlds originates in the unseen or not yet detected or understood. You know you are following synchronicities when encounters and choices all make sense. You suddenly know why you do the things you do, why your choices and priorities are changing. Intuition is guiding you to do what feels right, and you feel okay not attempting to explain.

For unique ideas to unfold, allow them to percolate.  Allow consciousness to expand to where you have no way to make ideas obey your desires or direction.  The key to everything is to be open-minded and fearless. Rediscover what it is to be in the flow and why you decided to tune out.

“When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of stress and anxiety; if I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without p...ain. From this I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me. There is a great secret here for anyone who can grasp it.”

— Rumi


Contrast helps you to focus

If you feel caught in a vicious circle, know contrast helps you to focus clearly into a new awareness of what is wanted, while you are standing in the middle of what you do not want.

When all of you is focused in the direction of what you want, then you know its here, you feel it and it manifests. Life does not feel so good if you split your attention between what you want and why you think you cannot have it.  The only reason something doesn't feel good to you is if you experience a split energy.  If you do not feel good, notice what this says about your focus of attention. What are you focused on that prevents you from feeling good and living the dream?  Negative emotion always means the larger part of you is focused on what you do want while the physical you focuses on its absence.

Watch what happens when you recognize you deserve something, you can have it, and already are experiencing it.  A focused version of you is focused upon your unlimited nature.  You are the creator of your own reality, how you respond to what is unfolding.  Once you reach fuller understanding, you recognize everything comes to you based on your vibrational focus of attraction.  This involves rendez-vous with perfect timing, with the right thoughts, the best conditions.  You have the control over what to observe, who to be involved with and more.  

Be aware that every moment, you are surrounded by evidence of your patterns of thought.  What you see is often based on your thoughts.  Yet, you do not have to base patterns of thoughts on what you see. Reality actually exists before you see it. You can live according to the phrase, 'where there is a will, there is a way,' or listen to the heart and allow the Way to reveal itself.

Notice you are energy more than anything, not a separate body, mind and spirit, one being.  Everything about the way you move through life reflects your vibrational offering.  Many people vibrate based on what they observe: i.e.- many people see something, allow that to evoke an emotional response and assume this is reality.  Its not.  Decide you like the way you are able to feel living in the contrast.  Watch what happens.  Life transforms.  Expect the unexpected.


Beyond the land of expectations

Expectations is the place you go before you get to where you are going.  Some people get lost on route to the land of expectations.  Other people arrive there but never leave or get beyond it. When you are not paying attention, notice you develop attachments and focus on where you could be going, what you are becoming. If you focus on this, you forget rare and seldom heard noises and awareness of what is missed.  If attachment did not exist, there would be no becoming and you would never be in the land of expectations.  See where you get by not thinking. Discover you only think your way out.  Explore all that nature is providing.  Without it, nothing happens. 

"It is simple. We are where we should be, doing what we should be doing. Otherwise we would be somewhere else, doing something else."  -Richard Stine