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Saturday
Jun202009

10 points on power of choices

Some people believe that the process of learning is one of he most challenging things to do.  You may forget that you have the capacity to shift mindst, focus or distance yourself from anything.  It all comes down to choices. Review 10 points;

1) Any person or situation that appears to manipulate your fears or make you more frightened is out to control you, not empower you.  You choose to raise awareness of how you feel and why or, not. You actively facilitate self-healing or not.

2) To nurture spiritual connections is to reconnect with a sense of unconditional love.  This enables a person to recognize he is never truly abandoned, rejected, or alone.  To deny spirituality or downplay its energy and potential, is another choice.    

3) Situations that evoke discomfort are the kinds of things you exist to confront.  You can exert valiant effort to face and overcome them, assist others with their own situations without judgment or, perpetuate the apparent problems.

4) You can choose to believe you have gifts and use them or, assume you have nothing worth sharing.

5) As you grow more attuned to yourself and realize your thoughts or behaviour cause suffering in others, you learn about the power of intention.  Do you choose to harm or love?

6) Some people will say one thing and live a life that reflects completely different beliefs and values.  You choose to compare to others, be hypocritical or, live a life of integrity.

7) Human beings are fallible.  As you grow aware you can make better choices, you have the capacity to take responsibility and be accountable for previous behaviour. The alternative is the why me? mentality, and allowing yourself to feel like a victim.

8) Taking initiatives to learn is a choice just like choosing to resist change and expansion is a choice.

9) Consider your conditioned reflexes and apparent instincts. Does it feel natural to be tolerant, understanding and forgiving of others' apparent mistakes or, do you quickly reprimand, anger and hold grudges?

10) Regardless of your perceived conditions, you always have capacity to find blesssings, advantages and good things where you are. This is not the same as reminding yourself you are better off than  (or superior to) someone somewhere. Its not an ego thing. Its an invitation to think with the heart and feel withthe mind. As you awaken, be thankful to be alive, grateful for what you have, the love and everything else you are given. 

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Hi dear Liara,

I like all these points here but found number one very interesting.. It made me think of a life altering incident in my life. A few years ago I learned how this type of control can be acted out by some people who have done it since infancy. But it is not overtly done. They use ONLY body language to control other people. No screaming or yelling or physical threats, etc. It can be so seemingly subtle just a slight shift in tone and body posture, facial expression, rigidity, etc. that controls people around them. It is seeemingly subtle intimidation, but actually far more powerful than many of use realize. Because so many of us have been taught to internalize things it can be over looked or treated as "it must be me".

Once I realized that I had to listen to my body and not my head, and I had to trust what I felt in my gut when around this person I was immediately set free and no longer felt intimidated.

Because this was someone I was working with I decided to gather my courage and speak with them (and they were a very good person). It also occurred to me that maybe no had EVER reached out to them in this way. When I kindly and softly broached the subject they said, "I don't intimidate anyone!" I gently described my gut reaction when I tried to politely talk with them about any challenging situations and the reactions I sensed in others who worked with this person. And VERY gently asked, "Do you really want to move through the world pushing others away from you and controlling them with fear? You're a good person; is that how you want the world to see you? Could it be that you feel afraid or overwhelmed with emotions in certain situations so you send out a controlling intimidating vibe that alarms others and keeps them at bay?" This person was shocked. And said that I was the first person who had EVER cared enough to breech their defense of intimidation. Once they saw it, they said it had been something they had done all their lives. They were so very kind and a total softie underneath the front and even told me how much they respected my courage, that it couldn't have been easy to talk with them. I was deeply moved. I also realized that the "intimidating front" had probably saved their life as a child, because they were such a softie. So deeply sensitive.

What was so beautiful with this person was that they immediately started to turn their life around and in situations that made them uneasy they would say to others, "I'm very uncomfortable right now, very scared, but I don't want to push you away and I will listen. The fear you may feel right now is not yours. It's mind."

Wow!! That blew my mind. I had and have the utmost respect for this person. It was pure magic to see. Talk about a transformation, and for both of us.

This experience became a marker for me. Whenever I felt that same feeling around someone else I was able to better recognize it and deal with it. It also reminded me to NOT be intimidated by others, to be fearless and yet loving. BUT to really look at where the fear is coming from. What is mine, what is another persons, and not to carry what is not mine.
June 21, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterRobin Easton
Hi Liara.
Thank you for continuing to remind me that I can see every situation as a learning experience if I choose. It's becoming more natural too, to choose how I will 'respond'. I find myself about to react and then I pause and ask myself, "Do I really want to go there?" The 'going there' can steal so much energy.
June 21, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterDavina
Robin, to recognize control issues and why people behave as they do, is very empowering. I relate to your story in different ways. I also met a woman who was very bitter and angry and reminded me of the power of my own compassion. This individual only knew how to be negative and manipulative until someone had patience and love to show her another example. One is reminded that people are the way they are because that is what they know, that is what they have been taught and are often consciously unaware. To learn about a gentle, peaceful nature is a perspective that completely transformed this person's life. This does not mean she is completely positive. However, feeling loved and appreciated shows her another side of things and she treats people with compassion and empathy as the result of her own lessons learned.
June 21, 2009 | Registered CommenterLiara Covert
Davina, you have the power to create and change any aspect of your life at any moment. That is an empowering revelation. Its all grounded in perception. To realize you can change your thoughts means you recognize you exert more control over self-expression and growth.
June 21, 2009 | Registered CommenterLiara Covert
Hi Liara,

I would add self-reflection and the allowing yourself room to grow and accept who you are rather than what you are. The distinction is in the realization of waking up to your dream self.
June 21, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterAlexys Fairfield
The last point being grateful without feeling superior was unknown to me until I discovered ACIM and the lesson about gratitude. What a refreshing view it was for me.

All points well taken. Thanks for your meaningful work. Most of the time I'm challenged by something you say. Today I feel I "know" these points. Thanks for helping me grow!
June 21, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterTess The Bold Life
Alexys, thanks for sharing this insight. People do not always realize they are in the midst of a dream within multiple dreams. This comes back to peeling away the layers of the human personality onion.
June 22, 2009 | Registered CommenterLiara Covert
Tess, life is fascinating when you are prompted to reflect to a concept. This reminds you that beliefs and values are ingrained or internalized in ways that are not always understood. Sometimes this does not seem to matter. As you raise self-awareness, you consciously choose to perceive differently and decide to ask new questions.
June 22, 2009 | Registered CommenterLiara Covert
I used to moan inwardly (and outwardly,) about living in this perpetual house remodel, but appreciating the areas that are finished and going with the flow rather than against it, has become easy. I am filled with peace. And joy for what I do have.
June 22, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterJannie Funster
Hi Liara .. thank you for those points .. as the others say you challenge us to re think and take stock on how we react to life. I will put "the capacity to shift mindst, focus or distance yourself from anything" phrase on a post it to constantly remind myself .. especially at the moment, when I'm not completely able to be myself in some circumstances, as I deal on behalf of my mother.

Many thanks - Hilary Melton-Butcher
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June 22, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterHilary
Thank you Liara for these wonderful insights! Sometimes we lose focus and direction and need to reset the balance.

:D
June 25, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterDanielle Lee
Jannie, your life is a work under constant construction. You are always preparing in the now for undoing what never was. Some of your memorable stages of progress are falsely judged as failures and some of your deepest resistances you label as success. To be open and willing to remove all fear and hatred from the mind is why you exist. Every experience brings you back to inner knowing your ego temporarily resists. Spirit simply exists as is.
June 25, 2009 | Registered CommenterLiara Covert
Hilary, in dream states, people often sense each person or object they perceive reflects a facit of their own personality. On some level, the same thing can be said for waking life. How we react to people and conditions (or not) reveals a lot about the self. That is, your emotional state reveals what you accept or reject. Its all part of the learning process. You engage and learn every moment.
June 25, 2009 | Registered CommenterLiara Covert
Danielle, every soul re-evaluates at different stages of the journey until judgment dissolves. Inner knowing reveals unconditional acceptance is all there is at any moment.
June 25, 2009 | Registered CommenterLiara Covert

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