Your states of mind or being project into your physical life experience. Realness is something you figure out as it is. Some people mask what is real or choose to compare it to a point of reference.
In essence, the nature of what is presents in what you are. Consider seven densities and seven octaves in each density. Human beings are a physical representation of every state in the universe. In other words, you are all densities and all octaves, all emotions, but selectively choose your focus now.
Another way to look at this is to sense the soul incarnates into the body. It is a hologram of the mind. As you decide to perceive or experience things from the perspective of ego, this is blind to love as it is.
To ask self what love and joy feel like requires that you are able to move outside the perspective of ego, to move outside mind and feel things from the heart. You exist to sense more than a physical body.
Energy is given the opportunity to evolve. One perspectve is everything comes down to what we think and feel based on desire or intention. Free will implies you can involve yourself in anything you create.