Many people are unaware of how they treat themselves and the kinds of messages their own mind is sending. Some messages are subtle and others less so, but how closely are you listening? Which thoughts are you focused on and which ones are you observing and gradually letting go?
You may also not realize that how you treat others is inviting you to feel more connected to the world and your deeper self. What happens as you see the game of life for what it is? If you do not love everyone unconditionally, you say you do not love self unconditonally.
Some people sense degree of self-love is reflected in state of the physical body. Some health symptoms seem chronic when you disconnect from mind. Could what you sense distract you from emotional hurt not yet healed in the subconscious mind? Consider hints your body offers through your language;
1) Notice your word choices. Hear self-criticism? What happens as you only appreciate?
2) Recognize underlying meaning in contractions. Each time you say "can't" this actually means "won't." It relates back to fear. Only being truly honest enables you to answer the question fear of what/why.
3) Sense the impact of abundance. Why would anyone convince themselves they are not good enough, do not have enough of anything? Self-sabotage and low esteen reflect deeper issues that invite reflection.
You are beautiful, sexy, lovable, successful, worthy. As you move from ego-mind based thinking to heart-felt perspectives, you know this is a path that merges you with oneness. This thing cannot be seen. Love is the perfume of that which cannot be revealed though light. Everything comes after. You are before knowledge and ignorance. Loving yourself unconditionally brings you to a place beyond worship and respect. Its the mosaic of diversity.