How to get through it
Every human being can relate to some kind of challenge or obstacle that prompts them to ask, "how will I get through it?" In fact, some challenges can seem to appear to last longer than you would like. Now, if you are the kind of person who is waiting for some experience to be over, could you be missing something? Maybe your current situation is yet to become one of your greatest teachers. Are you willing to think again?
One good friend of mine cared for her ailing husband at home over many years and festive seasons. He slowly died of Parkinson's Disease. She was in her seventies and he was close in age. She dealt with his incontinence, his gradual loss of memory, motor control and more humourus escapades. As a retired electrician, his illness prompted him to rewire things. At one point, pushing the front doorbell turned on a light. She confided she neared what she presumed was her wit's end, then, she transcended that. She found ways to get through it.
Another friend of mine has learned what it means to hit rock bottom. The end of the year did not initially evoke joy. His mind was on unemployment and fear of responsibilities he would not be unable to manage. He is evolving to realize he is capable of getting through anything based on what he decides he will. That does not mean things are easy for him. But, he is realizing many things he thought matter do not really matter. He is realizing that getting through it involves accepting things as they are and doing the best he can. How he thinks matters.
A member of my family has has her life changed by serious illness. During the holidays, getting a tree decorated mattered less than finding the strength to get out of bed and downstairs. Juggling office and home resposibilities went by the wayside. She faced increasing swelling, immobility and other unexpected internal discomforts. The festive season was not about presents, but rethinking gratitude for living, for visits from loved ones. For her, how to get through it has included denial, anger, frustration with losing control and avoiding physical reality. Sometimes selective ignorance, frailty and fatigue become close friends that serve an unknown purpose. To begin to lose independence while you still have faculties is a humbling lesson for pride and refining priorities. Still, good is found wherever you choose to find it.
Whatever challenges you face at the moment, perception may require a certain openness. People around you will not view their conditions the same way you view yours. You will learn what you choose, remember what you choose, forget what feels comfortable. People reconnect with the Divine or Forces outiside themselves to cope with inner storms. Challenges invite you to get-to-know parts of yourself and listen more.
Amidst it all, to realize you are loved and to recall how to love yourself, ultimately help you get through anything. Learning experiences are everywhere. They begin as a state of mind.
Reader Comments (5)
She found ways to get through it
How he thinks matters
good is found wherever you choose to find it
You will learn what you choose, remember what you choose, forget what feels comfortable
realize you are loved
all that in one post.
xhenry
"Learning experiences are everywhere. They begin as a state of mind."
Also, may I say how I love the new layout - it suits Firefox as well. :)
xh
When it comes to challenges, they often draw our attention to personal unworthiness. Human beings are conditioned to prove themselves to other people in order to feel valuable. You are evolving to realize everyone has intrinsic value, regardless of perceived plight, health, financial or other channging conditions, As your self-love grows, it will dissolve what could seem like a lifetime of bitterness, self-destructive thoughts and self-criticism. Your awareness shifts. How you perceive the world and the evolution of your being changes dramatically. You begin to experience something that has always existed even before you were ready to invalidate some of your own beliefs. How you choose to live refines your sense of humanity and free the worthy soul you had imprisoned.