During a given day, you are consciously focused on completing a series of tasks. You also react to what life throws you. Part of you reacts instinctively and other parts react based on conditioning. What are your mind and body really saying? Is this all a dream?
Think about your workplace. It is entirely likely that you periodically encounter disgruntled people. This could be on the phone, across the counter, in the staff room, or in some other interaction. You may evolve to see each encounter as a test for your patience, understanding, and ability to shake off the small stuff. How do you fare?
Think about your home life. When you leave and return, you leave with one set of emotions and return with the emotional results of your experiences. Do not assume that people around you will bring about much-needed changes in you. As you become aware of what mind and body are telling you, then you choose what to retain and what to let go.
While at the gas station, I recently opened the door for a man who had his hands full of groceries. Although he appeared surprised, he smiled and thanked me as he walked past. The cashier was gob-smacked. He confided to me that he had never before seen a female open a door for a male. He also shared how he had almost given up on opening doors for women. So many had reacted negatively to him, as if to say they were fully capable of doing it themselves. My mind and body tell me what feels right. Regardless of external reactions, I rely on myself and have faith. Do what makes sense to your mind and body.
You may ask, what ever happened to chivalry? If you choose to find anything in life, then you create it. You may have heard someone say they expect dismissive remarks. That is precisely what they experience, over and over. Positive, uplifting things are alive and well for those who invite this energy and are receptive. What do you really say now?